I will not hurt myself! I will not hurt myself! F$CK!@*!

In the news today, the LA archdiocese admits that an admitted abuser of a teenage girl…he had sex with her multiple times, not just molestation…has been in full ministry and has served on AN ARCHDIOCESAN SEXUAL ABUSE  ADVISORY BOARD because he would bring the “valuable insights” of personal experience to the table. WHAT THE F$CK?

Los Angeles Archdiocese to Dismiss Priest Over Admission of Molesting Girl

Msgr. Richard Loomis, then the vicar for clergy in Los Angeles, told officials in Rome that he would not remove Father O’Loghlen from the archdiocese but that his service should be limited. Several months later, Monsignor Loomis removed all restrictions on Father O’Loghlen and, in a letter, thanked him for agreeing to serve on the sexual abuse advisory board. He writes that both he and Cardinal Mahony “feel that you will bring valuable insights to the work of the board.”

John C. Manly, a lawyer for victims in dozens of sexual abuse cases, said Father O’Loghlen’s case was egregious because of his time on the sexual review board. “He was personally selected for a board that is meant to protect people from priests like him,” Mr. Manly said.


I want to spit, hurl my computer across the room, cry!

Calm down. Think. What logic was being employed here.

The abuse victim was a teenage girl. But because she was 16 when the relationship was initiated she was not considered a minor in Church Canon law.

Can. 1395 §2. A cleric who in another way has committed an offense against the sixth commandment of the Decalogue, if the delict was committed by force or threats or publicly or with a minor below the age of sixteen years, is to be punished with just penalties, not excluding dismissal from the clerical state if the case so warrants.

So, even though the priest admitted to a sexually “inapproprite” relationship with a teenage girl he wasn’t a pedophile. He calls himself a sex-addict. Now, addict should be a flag here. Is it possible an addict had only one “inappropriate relationship”? Possible! But likely? Leaving that aside for now, let’s move on.

Catholic authorities can rightly say this was not a case of pedophilia –which by definition involves pre-pubescent children. OK. I’ll give them that one – in terms of the letter of the canon law. What about criminal law?

“thirty-four states and the District of Columbia set the age of consent at sixteen, six states at seventeen, and eleven states at eighteen”   Note: One of the states defining minor as someone under 18 is California.

So, according to criminal law in LA, the girl was a minor  and it was a crime of sexual assault. Shouldn’t that give the Church officials pause? They were commending a priest who was actually guilty of a felony in criminal terms.

Here’s the thing. An admitted sex addict who has had sex with a teenage girl and become obsessed with her,  is deemed by Church officials to be capable of behaving completely appropriately around other young people, and is invited to serve on the sex abuse advisory board as … what? An expert in the subject.

If I was on that board and knew of his background I would have been apoplectic. I was the “token victim” on two advisory boards. A role I was happy to have. Ok, willing to have. Would I have felt safe, or felt the board legitimate, with an abuser-priest on board. Hell no! If I had been the mother of a 16 year old who was seduced into sex with a priest, would I have considered the behavior abuse of my daughter? Hell yes! Abuse of the priesthood, moralilty, common decency. Not to mention it was actually criminal activity in California.

WHAT THE F$CK were they thinking? 

There’s only one sane conclusion that priests, bishops, archbishops….they still don’t get it. If only they were parents, trying to protect their own children from the predatory behavior of sex addicts, pedophiles, ephebophiles (adults with a sexual predilection for youngsters in their later teens – girls 14-16, boys 14-19),  rapists and molesters in positions of authority and with access to their children. Then they would get it…maybe.

I want to scream and throw up. Not easy to do at the same time. There is no end to this insanity.


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I am a wife and mother, a once-Catholic now UCC Christian, with a degree in Theology, a Masters in Religious Education, 27 years of theology teaching experience -- mainly High School, some College. I am now working as a Hospital Chaplain and feeling humbled and privileged every day. I love my family and I love to write; writing helps keep me sane. Published writing: • From Hurt To Healing, Publish America 2004, ebook on Amazon, 2011; •"Forgive and Forget," America Magazine, September 16, 2002; •"From Victim to Victimizer," Human Development Magazine, Summer 2005; • It's Just Not Fair, Introducing The Fairly-Good Mother, ebook at Amazon, 2011; • Traces of Hope: Surviving Grief and Loss, March 2015, St. Johann Press http://www.amazon.com/Traces-Hope-Surviving-Grief-Loss/dp/1937943275

One thought on “I will not hurt myself! I will not hurt myself! F$CK!@*!”

  1. i am sharing so many feelings as you are while reading this. wtf are they thinking? i just can’t even express what i’m thinking right now about this. they are handing kids to these criminals, pedophiles, and they get a free pass hiding behind illnesses and laws and other judicial jargon bullshit, when they are hurting our kids. disputing between what legal age is and what it isn’t. i could scream too.

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